Oh, Monday. We meet again. Unlike most Mondays that I’m met with, this one has started off pretty darn good thus far. Other than a school carnival Friday and a 7-on-7 freshman football game last night, we had a super low key weekend. As busy as things are with three kids, I welcome those chill weekends! So here I sit, with my cup of coffee (no cream or sugar for me) and I’m so absolutely thrilled to be sharing my first REAL Motivational Mug Monday with you! First of all, how ‘bout THIS mug:
This one makes me smile. Ladies, in case no one has told you yet today, YOU’RE GORGEOUS. You’re ALL gorgeous, both on the inside AND the outside.
I want to focus today on the importance of personal goals and why you should be setting them. Personal goals aren’t just where we see ourselves in the future. They can ultimately pave the way for decisions we make along the way. They keep us on the path to creating a life that we ultimately always dreamed of. Not sure how to go about setting those goals? Here we go…..
1. DETERMINE WHAT THEY ARE
Really, really think about it. What ARE your dreams and goals? Where do you see yourself in one year, five years, ten years and beyond? When you envision yourself a year from now, be specific and quantify what you wish to achieve. Example: “I will lose X number of pounds”, “I will read X number of books”, or “I will be happily married with two children.” Also, make a list of ten or less. Now, don’t get me wrong, having a large number of goals isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but when you’re setting them, try to keep that list at a reasonable number. It will be much easier to stay on point when you have an attainable number to focus on.
2. PUT THEM ON PAPER
This is SO incredibly important, you guys. We write down our doctor appointments so that we won’t forget them, so why shouldn’t we write down our personal goals? This is a sure fire way that you won’t push them aside. They will always be in the forefront of your mind. Write them in a journal, put them in the notes in your iPhone, write them on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror so it’s the first thing you see in the morning and the last thing you see before bed. You’ll have a constant reminder of what exactly it is that you are working towards. Writing down those goals will actually get you excited about what you’ve set out to do!
3. SET A DEADLINE
Set a deadline for your goal. If you know that you have a deadline looming, you’re more likely to stay on course. If I don’t have a deadline, I know I’ll procrastinate. That may work for a minor obligation but when it comes to personal goals, or any goal for that matter, set that deadline.
4. TAKE ACTION
Know what it is going to take to achieve those goals. Devise your plan on how you are going to get there. What are you going to need to change or continue in order to meet those goals? This is by far the most difficult part of the process for the majority of people, myself included. They know they want it, but aren’t sure how to make it happen, or they just don’t want to work hard enough for it.
5. HAVE ACCOUNTABILITY
If you’re in a relationship, share your personal goals with your partner. These goals are likely to affect your partner and hopefully you’re both on the same page with your personal goals anyway. If you’re single, share them with your best friend or a parent. Have you ever known someone who was going to try to lose weight or quit smoking but didn’t want to tell many people? More often than not, the reason they didn’t want to confide in people was because they were afraid of people knowing if they failed. If people know about the goals you are working towards achieving, they’ll be able to support you along the way, celebrate your achievements with you when they happen and, should you fail, they’ll be able to cheer you on when you try again.
6. TRY, TRY AGAIN
One final thought. If you fail, try again. Failing isn’t really failing. The failure comes from never even trying at all. Take some time to evaluate what went right and what went wrong, revamp your plan and take another stab at it! Even if you don’t meet your goal (which, we both know you totally will!) you will undoubtedly grow from the experience and that’s still a win if you ask me!